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Sexual assault awareness in schools

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Alyssa Schleder

An infographic that displays the sexual violence ribbons and the domestic violence ribbons.

Alyssa Schleder, Staff Writer

“I was already in college when my assault happened, and I still wasn’t able to name or understand it at first,” said Caroline Whitlow, class of 2016 alumna and co-founder of Students Against Sexual Violence at James Madison University. 

Sexual assault is defined as any unwanted sexual contact or attention. It involves threats, uncomfortable touching, or touching without the person’s consent. The perpetrator forcefully, but not always physically, manipulates and coerces a victim into non-consensual touching of any, according to the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network. 

“The perpetrator spends time building a relationship which makes it harder for the victim to come forward because the trust was broken,” said Principal Claire LeBlanc. 

According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, NSVRC, eight out of 10 cases of sexual assault the victim knew the perpetrator, and 63 percent of cases do not get reported. It is one the most under-reported crimes in America. 

Usually, an assault occurs when the victim knows the assaulter, so when people say “fight back” or “report it,” there is often a fear of what might happen next. This can lead to an emotional or physical negative effect on the victim such as PTSD, depression, or eating disorders. 

“You’re not inviting; you’re just not respected when you say ‘no,’” said LeBlanc. 

Sexual assault is not the victim’s fault. Saying no may not always work, but that does not make it their fault. It can happen anywhere, even in schools. The victim may go to the administration or someone that they trust after a sexual assault or harassment incident has occurred.

“Sexual assault can scar you forever, so you have to work with someone, and you cannot internalize it,” said LeBlanc.

According to the Office of Women’s Health, women can feel fear, shame, guilt, or shock after the incident, and these symptoms are normal. 

Sexual assault is never the victim’s fault, and even though it can be frightening to talk about, get help or talk about the incident. A victim of sexual assault can report the crime, talk to someone they trust or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

“Anyone can be victimized. Survivors are as diverse as people are, and every survivor should be respected and valued, no matter how they choose to move forward,” said Whitlow.